There are and will always be a shadow in our relationship, that is the price we are paying but it doesn’t make us less happy.
Category: Testimonies and experiences
If a woman was rich, in communities that allowed polygamy, she could also afford more than one bride.
It was enough to get away a little, to have the courage to dare beyond conventional limits.
I am a male-to-female transgender. I’ve always felt different since I was young. I never identified as male, ever. Growing up, I never knew my real parents. I’ve been in different foster homes – three of them so far. It’s been tough. The first foster family thought I was a girl. When I was eight or ten, I started exhibiting feminine characteristics; growing breasts and hips. My foster parents were afraid. They said, “This is an omen. Hatumwezi”.
When people look at you in disgust, that you even ask yourself if you’re still at church. I don’t know if Christians don’t realise that they all have their own sins, it’s just that we don’t know about them (John, male).
They never tried to understand me as a person, they just saw demons and starting bombarding me with Bible verses (Zandile, female).
It pains when people treat you like less of a person for something that you didn’t even choose yourself, you’d think Christians would be more compassionate (Asanda, female).
“Our cultures have an important place in the society so to fight for rights should be done through dialogue”. Jimmy, a missionary brother says during the interview he had with us about his life...
The title “Love won’t fail us” in regards this letter means that Dunny went through all the mess because of love but kept on going. “In this letter, it looks like love betrayed me...
Last Sunday, at a weekly literary gathering in Kaduna, a bearded dark macho guy openly said, smiling with a perfect row of white teeth, “I am homophobic, so writing this story was very difficult for me” as if he expected the audience to give him a standing ovation.
I had to confirm what he had said by asking him to repeat himself, which he did in clearer terms. I couldn’t even wait to hear his short story.
I am PROUD that I knew intrinsically, in spite of being surrounded by all the negative messages, that I was not bad.
I am PROUD that although it took a lot of years to come to terms with
my sexuality, I finally arrived and accepted myself for who I am.
Until that time there was a HOLE in me and now, in its place, there is a
PRIDE in being gay is not something that comes naturally when we live in a world that tells us we are “evil” and “immoral”. For most of us it is first a road of self-awareness, and then of self-acceptance. We then need to take a further step to determine the consequences of our “Coming Out” to family, friends, and co-workers. For many the losses are not worth revealing the truth and so they remain closeted. This is understandable.